Do Tera and Jonathan do weddings together, or separately? 

The majority of weddings are performed separately, and thus completely Jewish (Jonathan), or Unitarian Universalist, multi-faith or for those identifying as "spiritual but not religious" (Tera).  However, we  can construct meaningful, purposeful wedding ceremonies together, and this usually  happens when couples want both of their faith traditions reflected strongly in the ceremony. 

Do we have to say "God?" 

Both Tera and Jonathan are comfortable with God language, though neither of them insist on it. Moreover, Jonathan does not embrace Christian traditions in his ceremonies, because he is Jewish! 

How will you incorporate vegan values in our wedding ceremony? 

Since we are vegan,  we understand how important it is for every part of your special day to reflect your unique love story and your values. Your wedding ceremony will lift up your commitment to showing compassion and kindness to all creation. We can also weave together a simple, beautiful ritual that reflects your vegan values into the ceremony. 

How far in advance should we book you? 

Some couples book over a year in advance, but sometimes our schedule allows us to accommodate you on much less notice. 

Do you perform same-sex weddings? 

Yes!  We are especially proud and honored to marry same-sex couples. Tera's faith tradition, Unitarian Universalism, has a long history of supporting BGLT rights and marriage. As a Reform Rabbi, Jonathan has performed same-sex weddings and has fought for non-discrimination in the workplace with his advocacy organization. 

How will you dress for the ceremony? 

Jonathan wears a Tallit (a Jewish prayer garment) over his suit or tux. Tera wears a black clerical robe and stole, or a simple dress and stole when it is hot out. She does her best to match her stole with the wedding colors! 

How long is the ceremony? 

Ceremonies led by Tera are about 20 minutes long, and packed full of stories and sweetness about the two of you. The heart of the ceremony is the exchange of vows - the promises the two of you make to each other. 

When Jonathan serves as M'sader Kiddushin (officiant) at Jewish weddings under the Huppah, ceremonies are typically 20-25 minutes long; besides the ring, the seven blessings, and the Ketubah, other rituals can be modified to best suit your beliefs and spiritual commitments. 


Can we write our own vows? 

Of course! You can write your own vows or help shape other elements of your wedding ceremony.  Your vows should reflect the sacred promises you make to each other on your wedding day. We can offer resources for writing your own vows. And if you don't want to write your own - we have multiple options for vows that will feel right to you.